Friday 25 November 2016

Man-O-Pause


We’ve all played housie. It’s a number game. I’m intrigued by two numbers on the ticket – because of what the announcer without fail repeats when he comes to those numbers. He says Eyes down for your next number - Men get naughty at four O, forty he announces and I quietly tick the number on my ticket, I feel al tingly  inside!.  Your next number, half way home five zero, Fifty. Man! It gives me pause – man o pause. In the space of a decade I have gone from naughty to dotty!

I’m the type of guy who likes to get on with life rather than pause so I wondered if I am going thru a midlife crisis -  the numbers were just about right, but what about the rest?  Now, come to think of it, there were warning signs 

·         My career had plateaued, not that I was on Mount Everest, or even Kanchenjunga it was more like Chamundi Betta.

·         The controlling hormone in me suddenly had started to act up. It allowed a few parts of my body to suddenly fail, while maintaining the rest of me in good condition – Hair grew where it is not supposed to and refused to where it once used to – the nose and the ears, and the head and my feet got tangled on the dance floor, without a drink!

·         I began to forget - If you are married you and over forty you’ll have noticed this problem - when you wake up you wonder who the hell is  sleeping next to you. 

·         I changed physically  -  I grew in the middle and shrank everywhere else.  I didn’t really struggle to stay in shape, because I felt comfortable with the thought that round is a shape.

·         My prism had a new design – it had become a monochromatic grey – Perhaps I couldn’t see clearly or it had become my defining colour.

·         One more symptom I noticed that perhaps was related to the Man O pause. When I was younger, let’s say in my teens I looked at older women as prospective life partners – both the one I fell in love with and the one I married, unluckily perhaps the same woman, were older. But by the time I paused to rewind, I had a problem with numbers – I began to prefer the smaller numbers to the bigger ones!  But that I guess can be normal - My research tells me that at 16, boys seek women who are roughly two years older than them. This age gap narrows to zero by the time we are 24 and thereafter we prefer younger women, with the age gap progressively increasing to only 12 years by our own old age.

·         But now I’m often more irritable and angry than before, especially when I have to get up and go for an early morning TM meet. Thank God today’s meet is in the evening – My wife is a counsellor, and when I’m irritable she says – it’s the sign of your midlife crisis – what you need to do is quickly cross it and go on to the other side -  I was not sure if she was referring to my age or some kind of immovable property not located on this planet!



My symptoms suggest to me I have a full blown midlife crisis. “A person often makes an impulsive decision uncharacteristically or changes their lifestyle dramatically,” says Sheila K. Collins, PhD, a psychotherapist and author of Stillpoint: The Dance of Self-Caring and Self-Healing.  Did I do that, I asked myself, and the answer is yes. Back in 2012, joining toastmasters was an uncharacteristic and impulsive decision that changed my lifestyle….totally. 



It’s time to pause, fast forward and play! And everyone is encouraging me do that, except my children – they want me to pause… which I’ve already done, rewind and play. I laugh it off but stay positive as my research shows that midlife unhappiness patterns, have a “U-shaped curve” with a very clear low period during midlife. So if I make it through this rough period, according to the study,  by the time I turn 70, I’ll experience the happiness and mental health of a 20-year old! Wow that’s something to live for – and Ill be looking for older women all over again!

Demonetization – A transaction analysis approach to understanding the decision!


Demonetization – A transaction analysis approach to understanding the decision!

Transactional Analysis is a concept developed by Eric Berne in the 1950’s and from there corporate managers began to use it to improve interactions among individuals on teams and between teams.  It fell into a state of disuse because of its complexity.  However it has its usefulness in understanding democratic interactions and decision making.

TA categorizes and calibrates ego into three basic states – the Parent, the Adult and the Child and suggests that interactions are dependent on the ego state of the individuals concerned.  Knowledge of one’s own ego state can also lend its philosophy to manipulation of others.

Berne suggested that three basic personalities or ego states operate in an individual and his attitude and behaviour flows from his ego state.

Basic Personality/ Ego State
Characteristic Attitude
Feelings behaviour and langauge
PARENT
Critical Parent
makes rules and sets limits
disciplines, judges and criticises
Nurturing Parent
advises and guides
protects and nurtures
ADULT

concerned with data and facts
considers options and estimates probabilities
makes unemotional decisions
plans and makes things happen
CHILD
Free (Natural) Child
fun-loving and energetic
creative and spontaneous
Adapted Child
compliant and polite
rebellious and manipulative

Berne also said that life positions that individuals take flow from these ego states as follows

I'M NOT OK  -  YOU'RE OK
I'M OK  -  YOU'RE OK
"I wish I could do that as well as you do" – Let me get away from others
"Hey, we're making good progress now" – I get on well with others.
I'M NOT OK -  YOU'RE NOT OK
I'M OK - YOU'RE NOT OK
"Oh this is terrible - we'll never make it" – We’re going nowhere
"You're not doing that right - let me show you" – Get rid of others

It’s true that people move around from one life position to another, depending on the situation, but there is always a pre disposed position or a preferred position that people tend to revert to, based on early life experiences. So basically our life positions determine our attitudes and pre disposed life positions influence our attitudes to the world at large greatly.

The  "I'm OK, you're OK" kind of people get on with life as adults. They're confident and happy about life and work, and interact by collaboration and mutual respect, even when they disagree.

The “I'm OK, you're not OK" people tend to be smug and superior.  They belittle others, who they view as incompetent and untrustworthy, and are often competitive and power-hungry. They talks about others from a position of superiority considering themselves perfect in relation to others, hence their decisions and their interactions may not reflect reality as it exists on the ground. Many managers and persons in authority fall in this trap. Games they play are include playing the victim or the rescuer.

The I'm not OK, you're OK"  people often feel sad, inadequate or even stupid in comparison to others.  They undervalue their skills and contribution and withdraw from problems.

And the last “I'm not OK, you're not OK" people feel confused or aimless.  They don't see the point of doing anything, and so usually don't bother. They drift.

Berne suggested that all communication (he called them transactions) between people are characterised by the Ego State of the two participants.  Incidentally they also determine the style of decision making and interaction and if one were to apply this Transactional Analysis theory to the Demonetization decision and subsequent controversy the following conclusions can be reached.

a.    Given the background above, it would seem that the decision was taken from the decision maker’s life position of “I’m ok, you’re not ok”.  The Chronology, the aftermath and the pronouncements of the leadership support this conclusion.  Leadership Speeches in India, starting with the dramatic announcement of demonetization on November 8th, and surprisingly and painfully in Japan too, suggested that all of India was corrupt and the corrupt must be punished.  It was the critical parent talking – taking a critical position, and promising retribution for bad behaviour and then setting limits – like parents often do with their children, perhaps missing the point that Indians do need to be dealt with as adults.

b.    The decisions in the aftermath of this earth quaking decision, were like aftershocks, changing in reach and magnitude from day to day. From being called criminals to be marked as criminals on their fingers came from a smug and superior position – a position of strength that cannot be argued with, in the parliament or outside especially on social media.  All opposition, or question marks on the decision were belittled with a counter question – are you with the hoarders or with the clean up?



c.    Then came the games people play, incidentally another book by Eric Berne, where the manipulative tendencies came to the fore. The decision maker justified the move by playing the victim, then the resucer, as he promised that the honest would be spared and would live happily ever after and finally the persecutor – a role he started with – You made me do this by your bad behaviour. Sample these Leadership Quotes and draw your own conclusions:



·         I was not born to sit on a chair of high office. Whatever I had, my family, my home...I left it for the nation

·         Yes I also feel the pain. These steps taken were not a display of arrogance. I have seen poverty & understand people's problems

·         We took a key step to help the honest citizen of India defeat the menace of black money

·         Previous governments neglected this; Did I hide anything? We took a key step to help honest citizen to defeat the menace of graft.

·         Why do we have to put the future of our youth at stake? Those who want to do politics are free to do so.

·         This suffering is for 50 days; After cleanliness, not even a mosquito can fly; People in 2G scam have to stand in queue for Rs 4,000.

·         If I commit any mistake, I am ready to face any punishment the country will give me. But I promise to deliver corruption-free India.

·         I know the forces up against me, they may not let me live, they may ruin me because their loot of 70 years is in trouble, but I am prepared.

·         The people have chosen a government and they expect much from it. In 2014, many people voted to free the nation from corruption... If any money that was looted in India and has left Indian shores, it is our duty to find out about it.

·         They think they can stop Modi by creating hurdles and harrowing me. I will not be cowed down. I will not stop doing these things, even if someone were to set me on fire alive





So what can we expect down the line? More of the same. For people who are in this life position, have a “perfection driver, and their personal strivings makes others seem less perfect. Note the 24 hour work days, the smug speeches, the “I” vehicle of change. Taibi Kahler identified this as one of five drivers in the field of Transactional Analysis.



They believe that they must succeed in everything they do, and be hailed as wonderful and correct in every way, even though what they do may not deserve that praise.  They are generally neat and well-groomed and display an ever so slight hint of narcissism never completely satisfied with what they do or have achieved and so work very hard.  However they also are very scared of failure, or losing control and therefore over compensate in so many different ways especially while exercising control. The Demonetization decision is a case in point!



Demonetization may be good for some, bad for others, and according to most will bring long term gain with short term pain. Only time will tell. However speculation is rife about the next moves in the game of money – but given the ego states from which the leadership operates, brace for more and as you complete the non-monetary transaction with the leadership, it’s best you respond, not react!


Demonetization - Putting the cart before the horse


The story of the 2016 demonetization scheme in India is similar to the cropping paddy. The plants are ripped out when the produce is ripe with no warning and the same rice is resowed only to be ripped out again come harvest season. In between they are at the mercy of natural elements, with no protection or fall back options, unless grown in a rich farmer's field, where pumped water and rich fertilizer abound for nurture. It would appear then, from all accounts of the chaos that ensued after the decision was made, that the Government in taking and executing this momentous and as the social media army call it, historic decision has put the cart before the horse.  Let’s see how.

Black money has two components. One, money derived from criminal acts like smuggling, bribery, sale of drugs etc. and the other from the evasion of taxes. Evasion of taxes is primarily a system problem. Indians are the saving kind and will adopt any means to save money including avoiding paying taxes which again has two reasons. If they pay the full component of tax they literally have nothing left in the kitty to consume or keep up with their neighbours, as what remains after paying income taxes is taxed at an extremely high level indirectly when they purchase goods and services, including strangely, a life insurance policy. The other, unlike in Western countries where too the tax component is high, the return in the form of amenities provided for the tax paid is very little.  This is evidenced by the roads, the health care system, and the education system and many other public amenities which are by and large non-existent or minimally present. All the tax money is wasted on sops for vote banks. So one can't really blame the people of the country or hold them responsible for not wanting to pay taxes and punish them. It’s insensitive of those who wield power over the taxpayers’ money! The system needs a clean-up and tax paid must have a visible return. Then things will change. Because after paying the correct taxes you probably will still have to bribe, perhaps because the system is not yet fixed, which leads us to the second dimension of Black Money - it does not really exist!

Yes it does not! But what goes around comes around….The Colour of the money depends on the hand that holds it. In the RBI's hand, like it is now post demonetization, there is only one colour, irrespective of legality - White! In one person's hand, if undeclared in an IT return or taxes are not paid on it, it turns black. Should the person holding it invest it in gold, land, or even in the purchase of white goods, or even a movie ticket, it turns white as it converts itself into a legitimate asset to have to hold from that day on! It’s not the money per se, but the process and the person that needs to be targeted or you'll be throwing the baby out with the bath water, especially if you empty 86% of the bath tub as this government has done with its rather unprovoked scheme of demonetization that should have and could have come after the many avenues for generation were tightened to a hair’s width.

What needs to be done there is twofold - strike at the root of the problem - areas like political funding, higher education professional fees, the undervaluation of land deals, the professional sector (the accounting, health care and legal sector), the government procurement and licensing sector and purchase of gold.  Each of these sectors should have first been targeted with a series of measures before demonetization. In addition, taxes should have been rationalized, reduced, exemptions eradicated and if possible, income tax eliminated altogether by piggy backing it as an expenditure tax on the GST slabs proposed.  It’s simple and easy to do. It can widen the base, eradicate harassment and lower the effective tax rate all in one go. It will also spare the poor - Please read this article (http://www.newskarnataka.com/opinion/its-time-to-abolish-income-tax-but-how) written as far back as May 2015.

Let’s see what perhaps should have and could have been done in each of these sectors prior to demonetization:

1. Political Funding:

Presently, funding below a cap of Rs: 20000 is non transparent - It is easy to change that especially with the majority that this government enjoys - No political party can argue with it as they are doing now without being labeled a black sheep. Yet not a word spoken on that either before demonetization or after. Getting political parties covered under the RTI would be the next step.

2. Education Capitation fees / Charitable Institutions:

Remove the education sector and charitable institutions from the Indian Trusts Act 1182 and Public Charitable Trust Act 1950 and move them into the Companies Act with a few exemptions. The disclosures and compulsions of the Companies Act will automatically strengthen transparency. Tax exemptions can continue to be provided to subsidize the sector however.

3. Undervaluation of land deals:

The problem with the real estate sector is the valuation, which is determined by demand and supply and fluctuates from location to location, from day to day and from every other angle possible including Vaasthu compliance.  It is not easy to determine or fix to prevent evasion by the buyer who would like to reduce his costs to the maximum, as also his desire to dispose of undeclared income he has earned elsewhere through his services in cash or through any other means including other land deals in cash.

The seller is often left with no choice whatsoever in the matter.  For example a healthcare professional, who generates undeclared wealth through his professional services rendered in cash may invest the same in the real estate sector purchasing a piece of land from a seller. Here he is hoping to convert his black money into white (through a purchase of DD in cash) / dispose it off partially (through the payment of the balance in black) even as he saves money on the stamp value. He is killing a lot of birds with one stone.  Ultimately the money starts circulating without a government record painting it black.  Although a state subject, it can be rather easily addressed if the stamp value is made inversely progressive - pay less stamp duty for higher value purchases with all properties being linked to the Aadhar no.

An additional liability is that of the Real Estate broker. For very little service, he charges a fee of 2% and demands that it be paid in cash. He does not have a professional licence, often does not have a registered office and yet makes a mountain of cash from literally nothing. This then circulates and comes around.  This must be regulated by the Real estate bill - where all such brokers are registered and licenced with an authority and have to submit annual returns to the authority concerned.

4. Professional services for cash:

This is one of the biggest areas of black money generation.  Professional services in the health care sector, legal, accounting and some other informal sectors including as bribes are largely based on cash transactions. Declaration of cash received for services is uneven and the undeclared portion as in the case of bribes in the government sector, goes to finance consumption of luxury goods and in some cases charitable causes. Eradicating these practices will prove more difficult than others, but can be tackled if income tax is abolished in its present form and it is piggy backed on the GST as an additional layered tax - there is no other way.  This will also sort out the unreported income in the rural sector.

5. Government Procurement and Licensing sector

The Times of India has reported that an engineer in Uttar Pradesh Government speaking anonymously said "A bribe is not a taboo in a government job". That perhaps sums it up.  Government has made a beginning with auctions of the resources of the country. Cannot the auction system be applied to the procurement sector too? It can is my guess, through a reverse auction or e-auction process. It is now standard practice worldwide and must be done even at the urban local bodies. Licensing and inspection must be brought down to a minimum through the streamline of various processes and the removal of discretionary powers of the concerned authorities.  Easy enough to do.

The regulatory and prosecutory mechanism too needs to be strengthened. Delays beyond 12 months must be eliminated statutorily for any deterrent to be effective. The investigative mechanism is non-existent presently. The Lok Pal Act is an example of poor execution and in the light of the haste with which demonetization has been introduced, begs the question as to why it is hanging fire. It is also noted that it has been amended recently to give added protection to the wrong doer!  Indeed the Supreme Court on 23.11.2016 castigated the government for the delay in the appointment of the Lok Pal and said it would itself act to appoint one if there was further delay, which might in the end be a good thing!

It’s only in the railways that an engine pushes the train forward from behind, but perhaps the government expected the horse to learn the tricks of the trade quickly? But while the train moves on tracks that are laid out as per a plan, the horse has to push the cart forward uphill on a bumpy and pot holed road that often disappears mid-way!